A few years ago when someone used the term “a strong person” most people automatically thought they were referring to someone who was physically strong. Times have changed. Nowadays when you say someone is “strong”, you could be referring to someone who is rational, as well as emotionally and/or mentally strong.
What it means to be strong
Being strong means that when things are tough you don’t fold under pressure. You can think rationally and make decisions that may or may not affect others with confidence that you’re putting forth your best effort. In other words, a strong person doesn’t simply fall apart when a tragedy happens, they get up, “suck it up” and start taking action.
“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.” – author unknown
Dare to feel
Being strong doesn’t mean you don’t feel. You do feel and you do get tired but you keep moving because it’s what you have to do to make life better. Feelings, both good and bad, are a part of life. If you don’t allow yourself to feel it could all come upon you at once and may be too hard to deal with on your own. Let it happen. It hurts but it does get better.
“Because this is what happens when you try to run from the past. It doesn’t just catch up, it overtakes…blotting out the future.” – Sarah Dessen
It’s okay to be sad
Speaking of feelings, sadness is a big one that some people don’t allow themselves to feel. Everyone has times when they are sad. It doesn’t make you weak as long as you don’t let it. A strong person is able to process their sadness and find an outlet. Remember that sadness is not depression you don’t have to feel it forever. If you or someone you love show signs of depression, please seek help.
If you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it
Being strong does not mean you have to go it alone. It’s okay to ask for help. People don’t always offer their help because they don’t know what to do. If you ask them for help they will most likely be happy to assist you. Sometimes the only help you need is to be able to sit and talk to someone. Find someone you can confide in and do so, it will help you regain your energy.
Don’t compare yourself to others
All too often people compare themselves to others. That is not fair to you. Just because someone else went through the same thing, or something similar to you and they handled it differently doesn’t mean that either one of you were wrong. We each have our own way of dealing with stressful things. No one way is right or wrong. Stop beating yourself up.
Don’t let self-pity drag you down
It’s okay to feel sorry for yourself as long as it’s not an ongoing thing. The traumatic thing(s) that happened to you was a shock and you should feel bad but, don’t let it keep you in despair. The best thing you can do is feel whatever it is you need to feel (sad, anger, hurt, betrayed), talk about it, get it out. Then pick up the pieces, get back up and fight. Let the world know you’re here and you’re strong. Before long you’ll be saying “look at me, here I am killing it!”
Take the good with the bad
Remember, disappointment happens. So does happiness. Maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted. That’s okay, there’s most likely something better coming your way. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. We may not know what that reason is but know that it’s all part of God’s plan.
If you truly want something, go for it
None of this shoulda, coulda, woulda stuff. If you want something bad enough you will do everything you can to get it. Don’t sit there waiting for fortune and happiness to fall in your lap. You have to make your own.
Being a strong person does not mean that you have super powers. You are human. You have feelings just like everyone else so take care of them. Don’t let the world drag you down and don’t let anyone tell you “can’t” achieve your goals.
For those who might not believe they are strong, I encourage you to look back on the things you’ve achieved in your life. You may have stumbled, but you didn’t fall. And should it happen again I’m sure you will “pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and do it all over again.” As always, if you have a comment, please leave one below. Stay strong my friends!
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